12 Days of Natsmas: Christmas Present Inspiration (4)

I am writing this whilst watching “The Holiday” and Jude Law just said ‘You’re lovely’ to Cameron Diaz, so basically…im very happy right now!

But anyway on with todays post, and what a complex one I have for you today. It’s something we get worry about every year, so I thought that if I told you mine for the year, they may inspire you.

But first I must say, you probably tell yourself every year, but try to get them done as early as you can, cause IT JUST MAKES IT EASIER!!!

But anyway, I wont judge. We’re all friends here. So let us start with the REAL head of my house hold, me mamma.

This year she actually chose her own Christmas present (though, i dont think she remembers!) a few months ago, which was a bamboo wind chime. This particular one was from The Range (an AMAZING homewear shop we have in the UK). Unfortunately, that particular one is now out of stock. However I found an equally pretty one on the fantastic world of ebay which better come in time for Christmas. So yes, there you, not your typical christmas present, but special all the same.

Next up is my grand papa (my dad, not grandad – im not sure why I called him that). I actually bought him his gift MONTHS AGO because…well earlier this year we became a little bit obsessed with this little known TV show, you may have heard of it “The Walking Dead”? Clearly thats a joke, we’re a bit late on the band wagon with that one. But yes we had the season 1 boxset so I bought him upto season 5. Simple, yet literally perfect. However, thats a bit basic on its own so I plan on attempting to get my hands on a paddington christmas decoration that m&s are selling, however online they say SOLD OUT sooooo…im a little concerned, but there may be a way…

Next up is the burded many sisters must face, the brothers. I have 2 much older, but much nicer brothers than…other…ones…sorry not sure where I was going with that. Anyway, the oldie is getting his own jar of Biscoff spread (since he always steals ours) and also some very warm PJ bottoms which he actually asked for. He was probably one of the easier people to buy for.

The younger one (still older than me) is recieving some spicey chilli sauce since any thing we cook isnt hot enough apparently. He will also open the most exciting (in my opinion) present i am giving this year which i believe is Per-Fect for him. It combines a book, lord of the rings and comedy as its a parody story of one of the most famous series’ in the world. Its called “the bored of the rings” and i found it in a little book store over a year ago.

So there you go, an insight into some of the gifts im giving this year. If you want any more ideas/inspiration or just simply what im getting my other families and friends, let me know!

Anyway, i hope you enjoyed and I shall see you tomorrow!!!

Xx

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12 Days of Natsmas: How to Survive Awkward Christmas Moments (3)

This may be the most important post you read this Christmas so, don’t stop… you have been warned.

Hello Darlings,

Today I will be guiding you on how to get out of life’s most awkward Christmas moments, because lets facts it, it’s a sticky time of year, awkwardness lurks at every Christmas tree filled corner. So I shall waste no time at all because some of these may have occurred already:

1) PRESENTS

This has it’s own section because SOOOOO much can go wrong with presents, it’s bad enough picking them out for everyone else, but you forget the horror of having to open them in front of everyone else.

The First one is opening a present, you absolutely hate, like literally does this person even know you? What is it? What is that? What does it do? I can’t even! But little do you know, whilst these questions are rushing through your head, your face is reacting to them, meaning that everyone can see EXACTLY WHAT YOU THINK OF THAT VERY PRECIOUS ARTICLE YOU HAVE IN YOUR HANDS!!! Do not fret. All you need to do is simply carry on looking down at the gift and then act like you suddenly realise how amazing it is and smile, look up and for God’s sake, SAY THANK YOU. What a lovely…thing they have gifted. If they look a bit apprehensive, simple state that you didn’t realise what it was, but now you know…WOW! Perfection, honestly -_-

The other arguably worse thing that can occur is when you unwrap something, and you know EXACTLY what it is. It may be a overly-sexual gift from your lover or something much more cheeky than grandma thought. When this occurs, I can’t really give you much help. I just hope for your sake that there aren’t too many people watching at the time. All I can suggest is giggling slightly WITHOUT ATTRACTING TOO MUCH ATTENTION and then sliding “it” back into “it’s” box or wrapping paper and sliding it behind you as fast as possible, again WITHOUT ATTRACTING TOO MUCH ATTENTION!

*Shudders* moving on

2) CARDS

Possibly the most common and probably ,most awkward moment that happens to everyone at some point in their life, forgetting someone’s Christmas Card. I can picture it now, giving some of you HOARD of cards out to friends or family and then walking up to another, GETTING THEIR ATTENTION…and frantically looking through your pile, before saying “Oh”. I am so sorry for you. All you can do i’m afraid is ensure that you make a full list before writing them out, going through them with someone else and double checking all your group chats to ensure no one is left out.

Equal to this is being of the receiving end or…not receiving end. Basically if you can see someone’s left you out, be nice. As seen in the paragraph above, they probably genuinely did just forget. Don’t take it to heart, just laugh and say don’t worry, give it to be next time. Who knows, you may even get an extra present from all the bother they caused?

3) FAMILY

This needs to be a whole novel itself, here’s just a few though:

“Reuniting” with someone who hasn’t seen you since you ‘were this tall’. I mean, who is this woman? Why am I being forced to kiss her cheek? What do you want from me? Are you important? Literally, I don’t think anyone you ask could answer you these questions clearly and confidently. Just be polite, who knows they may get you a present – wait, I’ve already said that, sorry, priorities – be polite – they may help you out in the future/you might make their day?

Now this THIS is what kills me. The Love Life Question. Got a Boyfriend yet Natalie? No, i haven’t YET Auntie Jane! There are a few ways you can answer this, or a question like this, obviously the first one mentioned is what usually happens but you may be also tempted to go “Not yet Deerdrie, Got a new hip yet?” or “Still pretending that’s your natural hair colour?” or even “Have you?” Cause to be honest, if they have the cheek to interview you on your love life choices or…lack of them, you have the right to hit back. But to be honest, they’re family and it IS Christmas, so just be polite again…or failing that passive aggressive and sarcastic (you can rant about it later).

Lastly, we come to when you ask THE WRONG QUESTION and it literally makes your stomach churn (not good after all that Turkey and Wine). They’ve either broken up with that person, or lost that job or some other tragedy and literally what are you meant to do, it was perfectly innocent. Just say something like “Oh, I’m so sorry” or “there’ll be others” or “Good, I never liked them anyway”, though, that last one could be a bit dodgy if they get back together after Christmas. Then move the conversation on, VERY VERY QUICKLY, so at least they wont resent you for too long.

 

Well, there we go. A full list of the most awkward moments around Christmas, believe me, there are maaannnnny more so if you would like something else like this is the future (maybe a new years or valentine version) let me know

See you tomorrow and Merry Natsmas!

Xx

Get Over It: Short story/Advice article

I know, im updating the old blog AGAIN! What has gotten into me?

Anyway I wrote a short story/advice article thingy which I though you may wish to read, I dedicate it to anyone going through heartbreak. I hope you enjoy it as I certainly do, it apparently should take you 3 WHOLE MINS to read so don’t worry about taking up too much time out of your very busy lives. Enjoy and see you soon, Xx

 

Confusion. That’s the primary source of emotion. Why? Just, why? You thought things were going so well, clearly you were wrong. It doesn’t matter how they did it. It just hurts that they did. No matter what the inspirational quotes and magazines tell you, at this moment, you do need them. Whether it’s been one date or 143, if you’re divorced, newly single or have always technically been single but wishing for more. It hurts.

Of course like any big grievance you go through the famous 5 stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Everyone becomes a love guru telling you this, but they always seem to miss out the most important question that any person who’s in pain wants to know. How long? Obviously you know from any lecture, that nothing lasts forever. But, forever is a very long time and I’d kind of like this torture to end sooner rather than later.

My story is no different. We were on our 14th date, 36th if you count the chilled days at each other’s houses (I did). We were coming to the abrupt end of a coffee break together in our lunch break. The he told me. Another girl was it? Longing to be single? Moving away? Nope. None of those Rom com excuses. Lesson one anyone learns with love is that it isn’t like the movies, obviously, that’s why this is a book. One day or another, they will dump you. Doesn’t matter if it’s a he or a she or just an it, everything ends. No use in dwelling on it though because it won’t happen just once. Even those who marry their first love are lying to themselves. That was not their first love because love comes in all forms and positions. When you’re just a baby you love your parents, for some of you fortunate few, you still do, somewhere under that shield of adulthood and independence.

Since then it’s been the latest boyband member, the one with the cheeky smile was always my fave. Or maybe you were more of a mysterious cast member type, the one in a popular TV show or soap opera where he wasn’t a bad boy, just misunderstood. They both come to an end, either through finding their own love interest or you simply came to your senses and realised their whole life that you saw, was just an act. At least you did grow out of it; some people are forever fantasizing about being the one who gets chosen out of a crowd of millions.

And then there’s the school crushes, wow, they never get old do they. If you don’t like anyone, you’re lying to yourself. There’s always that one boy that catches your eye and then makes your mouth drop (and maybe even your pants if you’re lucky enough to have a reciprocated crush – never happens). And that brings the cycle all the way back to the current situation, a break up. Hurts, yeah?

But don’t you see, you’ve loved before, and thus, you will love again. You may even be broken up with again, or maybe this time, you’ll be the one to do the dumping. Either way, everyone goes through it, heartbreak is tough but, it’s the only way to know you’ve truly loved. Knowing that you once have loved is better than never loving, so, in your own time, under your own circumstances, you will…

Get Over It.

Blogmas Day 23: Memory Log Tip

Omg it’s Christmas Eve Eve already! How? It seems like only the other day we started Blogmas and now we’re nearly at the end. You know what, even though I did find it annoying having to come up with a new idea to blog about each day and having to actually get off my lazy ass to write something, I think I am actually going to miss you. I know it’ll only be a few days before I start blogging again (most probably in the new year) but just think that’s NEXT YEAR!!!

Anyway for today’s blog post I wanted to give you a little tip which will help to make your life seem that little bit better. This is a great idea for when your feeling down or hopeless as every time I read mine it completely boosts my mood (which can seem like an impossibility at times). It’s also incredibly simple as all it requires is a pen and paper (or ya know the notepad of your phone).

I call it my “moments to remember” page but you can come up with a much more personal or creative name if you see fit. Basically all you do is bulletpoint little moments that made you smile. This could be anything from seeing an act of kindness to experiencing a favourite activity. As some of you may still be a bit confused I have listed some of mine below, I don’t have many but that’s fine as the list will grow as you get through life which is what makes it so magical:

  •  How excited the male Stuard was when you got off the plane in Hollywood (2015) and he said “that’s where he (Tom Hiddleston) sat” – October 26th 2015
  •  My A Level psychology teacher asking to see my dinosaur socks on Breast Cancer Awareness Day (we had to dress pink), I talked about wearing them the day before, so I had to take my boot off in the middle of a lesson – October 21st 2016
  • Putting my stocking on Christmas Eve eve 2016 and checking inside (for some reason?!?) and finding a “simple pleasures” lip balm in there – December 23rd 2016

For those of you able to read dates you will discover that, that last one was made just today about 30 mins ago which is what inspired this post. These moments may not mean anything to you and you may be wondering what makes them so special. But that doesn’t matter. In your list you are going to be the only person reading them. This is fantastic as it shows that you alone have control over your mood and your life which may just give you enough confidence to accomplish what you need to that day.

I hope this little tip in some way helps you. And if it does LET ME KNOW. You know how much I love hearing your views (no matter how mad you may think they are).

Merry Blogmas!

Xx

Blogmas Day 20: Little Things Mean alot

Today I would like to talk to you about the little things. They really do mean a lot. For example when on the off chance one of you lovely people comments on my blog I cannot express the huge amount of fulfilment and gratefulness that flows through me. I am sent an email whenever I get a like or comment or new follower and let me tell you, when I do receive that email it is the highlight of my day. I don’t think most people realise how much everyone else means to them. For example I sometimes struggle to tell others (my friends and family) how thankful I am when they do the smallest things. This is more focussed on friends I feel. Your friends have chosen to stay with you, your family it has no choice. Isn’t that amazing? The fact there are people out there that chose you to enjoy themselves with instead of anyone else. I think that’s the most precious thing in the human world. The fact that unknowingly, we have the capability of completely changing another’s perspective, mood and aim. For a less uplifting example; if a person was walking along the street and you have them a compliment, said hello, offered spare change, or just simply smiled. Think of how much of an impact that would make on their day. You have no idea where there were going, could be on their way to a boring day at work and you made it a little less boring. Could’ve been on their way to a very important meeting and you relaxed them…
Could’ve been on their way to end their own life, and you made them think against it instead.
Most of you reading this are probably thinking I’m mental which I hate to tell you, also backs up my point. No matter what your thinking, I have intact impacted your day in some way. I hope this will be for the better. This little blog post has made you, my dear reader, think.
Even if that was just for a little while.
But none the less, I would like to thank you for doing so.
You see what this post is trying to say is that the little things do matter. But more specifically, thinking matters. I know that this post won’t have a major global impact and for example make world peace. But that’s not what I want, today atleast. I just wanted to remind you to think about what your doing. No, not with you lives, I don’t want to give all of you existential crisis’. Just while your talking to your friends or out Christmas shopping just think about what you do before you do something. Can you imagine if everyone did that? I know it’s a big ask because it has such big connotations.

A quote I heard the other day while watching Red Band Society had really haunted my thoughts. I’m pretty sure it featured in my other post about fave quotes: “Sometimes you don’t need to walk in another persons shoes to know how they feel, some times the best thing that you can do is sit beside them”. I don’t think I really understood this fully until now. I believe it’s saying that you don’t and won’t always have an answer to someone’s question. But there’s nothing wrong with that. As long as you’re there to listen to what they have to say that’s all that matters. Cause let me tell you, there is nothing more completely frustrating then not being able to share your thought, feeling or opinions. And it is so, so unhealthy to do so. Now reader I would like you to make me one single promise. If you have a strong emotion towards or about something. Never under any circumstances keep it inside you. You must share it. This could be you simply texting your best friend or screaming into a pillow (or someone’s face is they diserve it). Because I promise that once you do so another emotion will be taken off you’re shoulders also…worry. I hate worry with a passion. And as a fellow worrier myself I cannot express how good it feels when you realise what you were worrying about was absolutely nothing. A simple glitch in the system of your mind. Ah sweet relief, how I love you so.

I’m sorry if this style of blog post is not your cup of tea, I just felt like a change. And I’m not going to appologise for the rambles because that would be completely juxtaposing my whole point of sharing your emotion. Getting real here I do appreciate all those who read this blog because it means Im also impacting people’s lives which is just amazing. Thank you. I promise I will have a much more relaxed post tomorrow. I’ve been through a lot of emotions today for some reason and felt like I wanted to get creative with my words on my blog. Oh I do love a ramble.

Merry Blogmas Everyone!
Xx

SEE! I told you I would see you today, I keep my promises!.. Most of the time.

Anyway, Today I thought I would enlighten you on some of my favourite life quotes. This is dedicated to you if you ever have a bad day or just feel like you need a bit of a boost (I know I certainly do!). So here is a compilation of both song lyrics/movie quotes and just general people’s sayings that I have grown to love:

  • For when you’re confused (unsure of how to act in a certain situation):

“Sometimes you don’t need to walk in another person’s shoes to know how they feel, sometimes the best thing that you can do is sit beside them” – Red Band Society (Another fave TV show which I forgot to add in yesterdays blog post).

” We’re not lost, we’re just finding our own way in the world” – Way in The World by Nina Nesbitt

“This right here is definitely a moment, anything could happen next” – Now is Good

  • For when you feel all warm inside cause that special someone glanced at you:

“You are my getaway, you are my favourite place” – Disconnected by 5 Seconds Of Summer

“There’s a hole in my soul, can you fill it?” – Flaws by Bastille

“Wherever you are is the place I belong” – Ready to Run by One Direction

“You took a Polaroid of us discovered, the rest of the world was black and white, but we were in screaming colour” – Out of the woods by Taylor Swift

“We sure are cute for two ugly people” – Anyone else but you by The Mouldy Peaches

“Don’t need no butterflies when you give me the whole damn zoo” – Starving by Hailee Steinfield

  • When you’re feeling a bit kick ass! (Literally read these every day)

“We’ll be the colour, in all this black and white” – I can feel it by Hey Violet

“Why should we care for what they’re selling us anyway?” – Listen to the man by George Ezra

“This deadbeat town’s only here just to keep us down” – She looks so perfect by 5 Seconds Of Summer

“Teenage Dreams in a Teenage Circus” – We are Golden by MIKA

“Be Young, Be Foolish, Be Happy” – Be Young… by The Tams

“Lets pray we stay young, stay made of lightening” – Girl Almighty by One Direction

“We’re gonna rattle this ghost town” – Anna Sun by Walk The Moon

“According to all known laws of aviation, there is no way that a bee should be able to fly. It’s wings are too small to get its fat little body off the ground. The bee, of course, flies anyway because bee’s don’t care what humans think is impossible” – The Intro to Bee Movie

  • And to finish off, what would this quote blog post be without the writer’s favourite quote to end:

“I have often thought that the most hopeful people in the world are the young and the drunk. The first because they have little experience of failure and the second because they have succeeded in drowning theirs!” – Thomas Aquinas (According to Sage Train)

I hope you enjoyed them! See you tomorrow and Happy Blogmas!

XX