Get Over It: Short story/Advice article

I know, im updating the old blog AGAIN! What has gotten into me?

Anyway I wrote a short story/advice article thingy which I though you may wish to read, I dedicate it to anyone going through heartbreak. I hope you enjoy it as I certainly do, it apparently should take you 3 WHOLE MINS to read so don’t worry about taking up too much time out of your very busy lives. Enjoy and see you soon, Xx

 

Confusion. That’s the primary source of emotion. Why? Just, why? You thought things were going so well, clearly you were wrong. It doesn’t matter how they did it. It just hurts that they did. No matter what the inspirational quotes and magazines tell you, at this moment, you do need them. Whether it’s been one date or 143, if you’re divorced, newly single or have always technically been single but wishing for more. It hurts.

Of course like any big grievance you go through the famous 5 stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Everyone becomes a love guru telling you this, but they always seem to miss out the most important question that any person who’s in pain wants to know. How long? Obviously you know from any lecture, that nothing lasts forever. But, forever is a very long time and I’d kind of like this torture to end sooner rather than later.

My story is no different. We were on our 14th date, 36th if you count the chilled days at each other’s houses (I did). We were coming to the abrupt end of a coffee break together in our lunch break. The he told me. Another girl was it? Longing to be single? Moving away? Nope. None of those Rom com excuses. Lesson one anyone learns with love is that it isn’t like the movies, obviously, that’s why this is a book. One day or another, they will dump you. Doesn’t matter if it’s a he or a she or just an it, everything ends. No use in dwelling on it though because it won’t happen just once. Even those who marry their first love are lying to themselves. That was not their first love because love comes in all forms and positions. When you’re just a baby you love your parents, for some of you fortunate few, you still do, somewhere under that shield of adulthood and independence.

Since then it’s been the latest boyband member, the one with the cheeky smile was always my fave. Or maybe you were more of a mysterious cast member type, the one in a popular TV show or soap opera where he wasn’t a bad boy, just misunderstood. They both come to an end, either through finding their own love interest or you simply came to your senses and realised their whole life that you saw, was just an act. At least you did grow out of it; some people are forever fantasizing about being the one who gets chosen out of a crowd of millions.

And then there’s the school crushes, wow, they never get old do they. If you don’t like anyone, you’re lying to yourself. There’s always that one boy that catches your eye and then makes your mouth drop (and maybe even your pants if you’re lucky enough to have a reciprocated crush – never happens). And that brings the cycle all the way back to the current situation, a break up. Hurts, yeah?

But don’t you see, you’ve loved before, and thus, you will love again. You may even be broken up with again, or maybe this time, you’ll be the one to do the dumping. Either way, everyone goes through it, heartbreak is tough but, it’s the only way to know you’ve truly loved. Knowing that you once have loved is better than never loving, so, in your own time, under your own circumstances, you will…

Get Over It.

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pet peeves: talking in the cinema

OML I nearly forgot. I really need to set myself weekly reminders! But anyway happy NatsChats Tiesday, I hope your week is going well so far. Mine isn’t if I’m honest, I was having a bit of a happy streak and then it all came crashing doe on Monday. Literally everything that could’ve gone wrong, did! But anyway today was a little better so you know, always look on the bright side.

Anyway today my little muchkins I would like to share with you one of my all time pet peeves: people talking I. Cinemas.

So you can imagine what happened, I was in the cinema with the fam about to watch LA LA Land (I was so excited since everyone had said how good it was). But there were 4 girls behind us that were about 12 or 13 and they WOULD NOT. STOP. TALKING! Look honestly I’m fine if you’re with your friends and you wanna make the occasional comment or laugh when something’s funny or whatever cause it’s a film it’s made fora response but if you are rude enough to talk out loud and ruin the experience for everyone. The cinema we went to was cheaper than most luckily enough but can you imagine spending a good £12 on a film per person and your money being wasted because you can’t even hear the bloody film. If you want to talk through the whole film then feel free to buy the DVD and watch it at home.
This is also pissed me off even further because I was really excited to watch the film and could hardly concentrate for the first hour thanks to that group of girls. Ughhhhh. It was alright though because (if you’ve watched La La Land you’ll know) it’s a long ass film so I had to go to the toilet half way through (which I would never ever do cause I don’t want to agitate other people and probably wouldn’t notice as I would be so sucked into the film to realise I even, sorr needed the toilet. But so did a lot of others so I didn’t feel that bad. But when I was coming back out of the toilet the 4 girls came in (and didn’t say anything when I reld the door open for all 4 of them May I add) but they didn’t come back to the screening so I got to enjoy the last hour (ish) in piece.
I know that I am not the nicest person in the world and sometimes I can do or say horrible things but under no circumstances will I ever accept people being rude. There is literally no need for it. I think that you should show respect to all people no matter who they are.

But anyway that’s my rant for this week, sorry if you prefer my other more structured blog posts they will be back next week. But while where on the topic of you have any ideas of blog posts you’d like to read from me please do tell me. I think I will pretty much do anything. I was thinking of also doing a “my makeup routine” aswell so let me know by dropping a comment if you’d like that or what not. Also feel free to share your pet peeves with anyone so we can all grumble together haha!

See you next week! Xx