Get Over It: Short story/Advice article

I know, im updating the old blog AGAIN! What has gotten into me?

Anyway I wrote a short story/advice article thingy which I though you may wish to read, I dedicate it to anyone going through heartbreak. I hope you enjoy it as I certainly do, it apparently should take you 3 WHOLE MINS to read so don’t worry about taking up too much time out of your very busy lives. Enjoy and see you soon, Xx

 

Confusion. That’s the primary source of emotion. Why? Just, why? You thought things were going so well, clearly you were wrong. It doesn’t matter how they did it. It just hurts that they did. No matter what the inspirational quotes and magazines tell you, at this moment, you do need them. Whether it’s been one date or 143, if you’re divorced, newly single or have always technically been single but wishing for more. It hurts.

Of course like any big grievance you go through the famous 5 stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Everyone becomes a love guru telling you this, but they always seem to miss out the most important question that any person who’s in pain wants to know. How long? Obviously you know from any lecture, that nothing lasts forever. But, forever is a very long time and I’d kind of like this torture to end sooner rather than later.

My story is no different. We were on our 14th date, 36th if you count the chilled days at each other’s houses (I did). We were coming to the abrupt end of a coffee break together in our lunch break. The he told me. Another girl was it? Longing to be single? Moving away? Nope. None of those Rom com excuses. Lesson one anyone learns with love is that it isn’t like the movies, obviously, that’s why this is a book. One day or another, they will dump you. Doesn’t matter if it’s a he or a she or just an it, everything ends. No use in dwelling on it though because it won’t happen just once. Even those who marry their first love are lying to themselves. That was not their first love because love comes in all forms and positions. When you’re just a baby you love your parents, for some of you fortunate few, you still do, somewhere under that shield of adulthood and independence.

Since then it’s been the latest boyband member, the one with the cheeky smile was always my fave. Or maybe you were more of a mysterious cast member type, the one in a popular TV show or soap opera where he wasn’t a bad boy, just misunderstood. They both come to an end, either through finding their own love interest or you simply came to your senses and realised their whole life that you saw, was just an act. At least you did grow out of it; some people are forever fantasizing about being the one who gets chosen out of a crowd of millions.

And then there’s the school crushes, wow, they never get old do they. If you don’t like anyone, you’re lying to yourself. There’s always that one boy that catches your eye and then makes your mouth drop (and maybe even your pants if you’re lucky enough to have a reciprocated crush – never happens). And that brings the cycle all the way back to the current situation, a break up. Hurts, yeah?

But don’t you see, you’ve loved before, and thus, you will love again. You may even be broken up with again, or maybe this time, you’ll be the one to do the dumping. Either way, everyone goes through it, heartbreak is tough but, it’s the only way to know you’ve truly loved. Knowing that you once have loved is better than never loving, so, in your own time, under your own circumstances, you will…

Get Over It.

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Blogmas Day 20: Little Things Mean alot

Today I would like to talk to you about the little things. They really do mean a lot. For example when on the off chance one of you lovely people comments on my blog I cannot express the huge amount of fulfilment and gratefulness that flows through me. I am sent an email whenever I get a like or comment or new follower and let me tell you, when I do receive that email it is the highlight of my day. I don’t think most people realise how much everyone else means to them. For example I sometimes struggle to tell others (my friends and family) how thankful I am when they do the smallest things. This is more focussed on friends I feel. Your friends have chosen to stay with you, your family it has no choice. Isn’t that amazing? The fact there are people out there that chose you to enjoy themselves with instead of anyone else. I think that’s the most precious thing in the human world. The fact that unknowingly, we have the capability of completely changing another’s perspective, mood and aim. For a less uplifting example; if a person was walking along the street and you have them a compliment, said hello, offered spare change, or just simply smiled. Think of how much of an impact that would make on their day. You have no idea where there were going, could be on their way to a boring day at work and you made it a little less boring. Could’ve been on their way to a very important meeting and you relaxed them…
Could’ve been on their way to end their own life, and you made them think against it instead.
Most of you reading this are probably thinking I’m mental which I hate to tell you, also backs up my point. No matter what your thinking, I have intact impacted your day in some way. I hope this will be for the better. This little blog post has made you, my dear reader, think.
Even if that was just for a little while.
But none the less, I would like to thank you for doing so.
You see what this post is trying to say is that the little things do matter. But more specifically, thinking matters. I know that this post won’t have a major global impact and for example make world peace. But that’s not what I want, today atleast. I just wanted to remind you to think about what your doing. No, not with you lives, I don’t want to give all of you existential crisis’. Just while your talking to your friends or out Christmas shopping just think about what you do before you do something. Can you imagine if everyone did that? I know it’s a big ask because it has such big connotations.

A quote I heard the other day while watching Red Band Society had really haunted my thoughts. I’m pretty sure it featured in my other post about fave quotes: “Sometimes you don’t need to walk in another persons shoes to know how they feel, some times the best thing that you can do is sit beside them”. I don’t think I really understood this fully until now. I believe it’s saying that you don’t and won’t always have an answer to someone’s question. But there’s nothing wrong with that. As long as you’re there to listen to what they have to say that’s all that matters. Cause let me tell you, there is nothing more completely frustrating then not being able to share your thought, feeling or opinions. And it is so, so unhealthy to do so. Now reader I would like you to make me one single promise. If you have a strong emotion towards or about something. Never under any circumstances keep it inside you. You must share it. This could be you simply texting your best friend or screaming into a pillow (or someone’s face is they diserve it). Because I promise that once you do so another emotion will be taken off you’re shoulders also…worry. I hate worry with a passion. And as a fellow worrier myself I cannot express how good it feels when you realise what you were worrying about was absolutely nothing. A simple glitch in the system of your mind. Ah sweet relief, how I love you so.

I’m sorry if this style of blog post is not your cup of tea, I just felt like a change. And I’m not going to appologise for the rambles because that would be completely juxtaposing my whole point of sharing your emotion. Getting real here I do appreciate all those who read this blog because it means Im also impacting people’s lives which is just amazing. Thank you. I promise I will have a much more relaxed post tomorrow. I’ve been through a lot of emotions today for some reason and felt like I wanted to get creative with my words on my blog. Oh I do love a ramble.

Merry Blogmas Everyone!
Xx