Get Over It: Short story/Advice article

I know, im updating the old blog AGAIN! What has gotten into me?

Anyway I wrote a short story/advice article thingy which I though you may wish to read, I dedicate it to anyone going through heartbreak. I hope you enjoy it as I certainly do, it apparently should take you 3 WHOLE MINS to read so don’t worry about taking up too much time out of your very busy lives. Enjoy and see you soon, Xx

 

Confusion. That’s the primary source of emotion. Why? Just, why? You thought things were going so well, clearly you were wrong. It doesn’t matter how they did it. It just hurts that they did. No matter what the inspirational quotes and magazines tell you, at this moment, you do need them. Whether it’s been one date or 143, if you’re divorced, newly single or have always technically been single but wishing for more. It hurts.

Of course like any big grievance you go through the famous 5 stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Everyone becomes a love guru telling you this, but they always seem to miss out the most important question that any person who’s in pain wants to know. How long? Obviously you know from any lecture, that nothing lasts forever. But, forever is a very long time and I’d kind of like this torture to end sooner rather than later.

My story is no different. We were on our 14th date, 36th if you count the chilled days at each other’s houses (I did). We were coming to the abrupt end of a coffee break together in our lunch break. The he told me. Another girl was it? Longing to be single? Moving away? Nope. None of those Rom com excuses. Lesson one anyone learns with love is that it isn’t like the movies, obviously, that’s why this is a book. One day or another, they will dump you. Doesn’t matter if it’s a he or a she or just an it, everything ends. No use in dwelling on it though because it won’t happen just once. Even those who marry their first love are lying to themselves. That was not their first love because love comes in all forms and positions. When you’re just a baby you love your parents, for some of you fortunate few, you still do, somewhere under that shield of adulthood and independence.

Since then it’s been the latest boyband member, the one with the cheeky smile was always my fave. Or maybe you were more of a mysterious cast member type, the one in a popular TV show or soap opera where he wasn’t a bad boy, just misunderstood. They both come to an end, either through finding their own love interest or you simply came to your senses and realised their whole life that you saw, was just an act. At least you did grow out of it; some people are forever fantasizing about being the one who gets chosen out of a crowd of millions.

And then there’s the school crushes, wow, they never get old do they. If you don’t like anyone, you’re lying to yourself. There’s always that one boy that catches your eye and then makes your mouth drop (and maybe even your pants if you’re lucky enough to have a reciprocated crush – never happens). And that brings the cycle all the way back to the current situation, a break up. Hurts, yeah?

But don’t you see, you’ve loved before, and thus, you will love again. You may even be broken up with again, or maybe this time, you’ll be the one to do the dumping. Either way, everyone goes through it, heartbreak is tough but, it’s the only way to know you’ve truly loved. Knowing that you once have loved is better than never loving, so, in your own time, under your own circumstances, you will…

Get Over It.

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Being Single.

Holla! Happy NatsChatsTuesday Peeps! Hope the last two weeks have treated you well. I’m in an oddly good mood right now and so I though I would touch on fairly sensitive subject. This topic either boosts my confidence and makes me feel like a cool, crazy, independent woman who “don’t belong to no city, don’t belong to no man” and other times i’m crying because i’ll be forever alone and no one wants me. There is literally no in between. But why I’m still in the first category I though Id reach out to my fellow Pringles and show you it ain’t all bad. Yes, i’m going to be talking about Being Single.

I know all those empowering quotes you find on pinterest mostly just wanna make you throw up so my first rule is: DONT RELY ON WHAT OTHER PEOPLE SAY TO CHEER YOURSELF UP! This applys to all aspects of self confidence.

The next thing is so, so important. I imagine whilst scrolling through Instagram you’ve seen the phrase “whats a queen without her king”. the thing I think all of you need to realise is that a queen without a king is still a queen. In modern times a woman can rule the world without anyone “by her side”. She’ll be doing the same amount of work without any help from a man (or woman). So if you are single you’re just proving to the world that you dont need anyone, and can live perfectly well on your own (btw thats what your are doing right now – if your reading this you are living).

Now the question lots of people will be wanting to avoid once you realise the single life isnt actually bad atall is when people ask “why are you single?”. When people say this just laugh or walk away. You dont ask them why their in a relationship so they must be making some joke that wasnt as funny as they thought. One of my favourite quotes is:

Because its so much better to live your life solo, than settle down!

And my favourite point to share with you, is that the single life lets you spend time with the most amazing, gorgeous person in the round, yourself. This person should be your number one priority as your stuck with them for all eternity. So please my peeps love yourself as much as i do, you are so worth everything you want, and if it dosent work out, it clearly wasn’t worth you! I LOVE YOU!XX

Favourite Snacks: September 2016

So I went shopping today and bought myself some Cookie Dough bites from the pound shop on a whim and they turned out to be amazing!!! So yeah here is a list of my top 4 fave snacks just to make you feel hungry

💠 “THE ORIGINAL CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIE DOUGH BITES” Little balls of cookie dough goodness covered in a chocolate type coating

💠  “BARRATT DIB DAB” Strawberry lolly with bag of sherbet

💠 “NIK NAKS” corn snacky thing

💠 “DORITOS” All the flavours of gorgeous crisps!!!

All these Snacks are available in the uk but if you are from another country I’m afraid you might have a bit more trouble finding them!

Feel free to comment your own guilty snacks, come on we all have them!

xx

Smoothie Hack

Here’s a snazzy little hack for someone running late in the morning or for a simple, quick, tasty AND healthy snack. Believe me you do not need to feel guilty for drinking these bad boys!

All you need to do is pe-mix the smoothies and then freeze them in cupcake cases until you need them! As im feeling extra generous here are my top 3 smoothie recipes:

  • Mango & Passionfruit Smoothie

400g mango, 250g fat-free mango yogurt, 250ml skimmed milk, one limes juice, 4 passion fruits (halved)

  • Cranberry & Raspberry

200ml cranberry juice, 175g strawberries, 100ml milk, 200ml natural yogurt, 1 tbsp caster sugar (or plus for those sweet tooths among us

  • Breakfast Smoothie

1 small (ripe banana), 140g berries (of your choice), apple juice or water (your choice again), and maybe a dribble of honey to serve