12 Days of Natsmas: How to Survive Awkward Christmas Moments (3)

This may be the most important post you read this Christmas so, don’t stop… you have been warned.

Hello Darlings,

Today I will be guiding you on how to get out of life’s most awkward Christmas moments, because lets facts it, it’s a sticky time of year, awkwardness lurks at every Christmas tree filled corner. So I shall waste no time at all because some of these may have occurred already:

1) PRESENTS

This has it’s own section because SOOOOO much can go wrong with presents, it’s bad enough picking them out for everyone else, but you forget the horror of having to open them in front of everyone else.

The First one is opening a present, you absolutely hate, like literally does this person even know you? What is it? What is that? What does it do? I can’t even! But little do you know, whilst these questions are rushing through your head, your face is reacting to them, meaning that everyone can see EXACTLY WHAT YOU THINK OF THAT VERY PRECIOUS ARTICLE YOU HAVE IN YOUR HANDS!!! Do not fret. All you need to do is simply carry on looking down at the gift and then act like you suddenly realise how amazing it is and smile, look up and for God’s sake, SAY THANK YOU. What a lovely…thing they have gifted. If they look a bit apprehensive, simple state that you didn’t realise what it was, but now you know…WOW! Perfection, honestly -_-

The other arguably worse thing that can occur is when you unwrap something, and you know EXACTLY what it is. It may be a overly-sexual gift from your lover or something much more cheeky than grandma thought. When this occurs, I can’t really give you much help. I just hope for your sake that there aren’t too many people watching at the time. All I can suggest is giggling slightly WITHOUT ATTRACTING TOO MUCH ATTENTION and then sliding “it” back into “it’s” box or wrapping paper and sliding it behind you as fast as possible, again WITHOUT ATTRACTING TOO MUCH ATTENTION!

*Shudders* moving on

2) CARDS

Possibly the most common and probably ,most awkward moment that happens to everyone at some point in their life, forgetting someone’s Christmas Card. I can picture it now, giving some of you HOARD of cards out to friends or family and then walking up to another, GETTING THEIR ATTENTION…and frantically looking through your pile, before saying “Oh”. I am so sorry for you. All you can do i’m afraid is ensure that you make a full list before writing them out, going through them with someone else and double checking all your group chats to ensure no one is left out.

Equal to this is being of the receiving end or…not receiving end. Basically if you can see someone’s left you out, be nice. As seen in the paragraph above, they probably genuinely did just forget. Don’t take it to heart, just laugh and say don’t worry, give it to be next time. Who knows, you may even get an extra present from all the bother they caused?

3) FAMILY

This needs to be a whole novel itself, here’s just a few though:

“Reuniting” with someone who hasn’t seen you since you ‘were this tall’. I mean, who is this woman? Why am I being forced to kiss her cheek? What do you want from me? Are you important? Literally, I don’t think anyone you ask could answer you these questions clearly and confidently. Just be polite, who knows they may get you a present – wait, I’ve already said that, sorry, priorities – be polite – they may help you out in the future/you might make their day?

Now this THIS is what kills me. The Love Life Question. Got a Boyfriend yet Natalie? No, i haven’t YET Auntie Jane! There are a few ways you can answer this, or a question like this, obviously the first one mentioned is what usually happens but you may be also tempted to go “Not yet Deerdrie, Got a new hip yet?” or “Still pretending that’s your natural hair colour?” or even “Have you?” Cause to be honest, if they have the cheek to interview you on your love life choices or…lack of them, you have the right to hit back. But to be honest, they’re family and it IS Christmas, so just be polite again…or failing that passive aggressive and sarcastic (you can rant about it later).

Lastly, we come to when you ask THE WRONG QUESTION and it literally makes your stomach churn (not good after all that Turkey and Wine). They’ve either broken up with that person, or lost that job or some other tragedy and literally what are you meant to do, it was perfectly innocent. Just say something like “Oh, I’m so sorry” or “there’ll be others” or “Good, I never liked them anyway”, though, that last one could be a bit dodgy if they get back together after Christmas. Then move the conversation on, VERY VERY QUICKLY, so at least they wont resent you for too long.

 

Well, there we go. A full list of the most awkward moments around Christmas, believe me, there are maaannnnny more so if you would like something else like this is the future (maybe a new years or valentine version) let me know

See you tomorrow and Merry Natsmas!

Xx

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Get Over It: Short story/Advice article

I know, im updating the old blog AGAIN! What has gotten into me?

Anyway I wrote a short story/advice article thingy which I though you may wish to read, I dedicate it to anyone going through heartbreak. I hope you enjoy it as I certainly do, it apparently should take you 3 WHOLE MINS to read so don’t worry about taking up too much time out of your very busy lives. Enjoy and see you soon, Xx

 

Confusion. That’s the primary source of emotion. Why? Just, why? You thought things were going so well, clearly you were wrong. It doesn’t matter how they did it. It just hurts that they did. No matter what the inspirational quotes and magazines tell you, at this moment, you do need them. Whether it’s been one date or 143, if you’re divorced, newly single or have always technically been single but wishing for more. It hurts.

Of course like any big grievance you go through the famous 5 stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Everyone becomes a love guru telling you this, but they always seem to miss out the most important question that any person who’s in pain wants to know. How long? Obviously you know from any lecture, that nothing lasts forever. But, forever is a very long time and I’d kind of like this torture to end sooner rather than later.

My story is no different. We were on our 14th date, 36th if you count the chilled days at each other’s houses (I did). We were coming to the abrupt end of a coffee break together in our lunch break. The he told me. Another girl was it? Longing to be single? Moving away? Nope. None of those Rom com excuses. Lesson one anyone learns with love is that it isn’t like the movies, obviously, that’s why this is a book. One day or another, they will dump you. Doesn’t matter if it’s a he or a she or just an it, everything ends. No use in dwelling on it though because it won’t happen just once. Even those who marry their first love are lying to themselves. That was not their first love because love comes in all forms and positions. When you’re just a baby you love your parents, for some of you fortunate few, you still do, somewhere under that shield of adulthood and independence.

Since then it’s been the latest boyband member, the one with the cheeky smile was always my fave. Or maybe you were more of a mysterious cast member type, the one in a popular TV show or soap opera where he wasn’t a bad boy, just misunderstood. They both come to an end, either through finding their own love interest or you simply came to your senses and realised their whole life that you saw, was just an act. At least you did grow out of it; some people are forever fantasizing about being the one who gets chosen out of a crowd of millions.

And then there’s the school crushes, wow, they never get old do they. If you don’t like anyone, you’re lying to yourself. There’s always that one boy that catches your eye and then makes your mouth drop (and maybe even your pants if you’re lucky enough to have a reciprocated crush – never happens). And that brings the cycle all the way back to the current situation, a break up. Hurts, yeah?

But don’t you see, you’ve loved before, and thus, you will love again. You may even be broken up with again, or maybe this time, you’ll be the one to do the dumping. Either way, everyone goes through it, heartbreak is tough but, it’s the only way to know you’ve truly loved. Knowing that you once have loved is better than never loving, so, in your own time, under your own circumstances, you will…

Get Over It.

Blogmas Day 21: New Years Resolution Reflection

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while you will know that at the beginning of the WA I made a blog post titled: “Happy New Year my darling” where I stated 3 New Years resolutions I made for the year 2016. And today I looked back on it and realised that I actually did pretty damn well.

My first resolution was to “get that summer bod” which okay was a huge flop. This year I left school and so no longer had to do any type of fitness or sport in school. So basically have done nothing all year and am the most unhealthy I have ever been. So yeah that is definitely gonna be a resolution to make next year aswell. I’m not even gonna attempt to try and get fit by the end of the year because 1) I have 10 days and 2) it’s Christmas so I plan to eat and be lazy along with most other people. I did get a exercise bike this year though so do have the possibility of getting fit. Also I have a new found love for Yoga and meditation which although won’t get you ripped af, will help you tone and get your mental health in shape.

My second New Years Resolution was to get a job and I can safely say MISSION ACCOMPLISHED! It may be a Christmas temp job which will more that likely end in January but I still got one. And I just realised that I have had 2 Jobs prior to this as well as a handful of interviews which will hopefully boost my confidence for job searches in the future. For those interested I worked in a advertising agency for Tribute acts early in the year and a vintage online clothing line in the summer and now work at a shop which I will not name because I don’t want them to fire me.

My last resolution for the year that’s passed was to save up some money and buy a camera. This one is by far the best accomplished one. Through the first half of the year I saved up all by own money and then went out and bought myself a half decent camera which I did Infact take to both Tenerife and Thailand (which you may know if you are subscribed to my YouTube Channel – NatsChatsTV. It has proven very useful and great for taking photos. I have recently noticed though that there is an odd hollow sound in the background of filming which you only hear when filming something quiet (not a concert though) so have no idea what that is all about. But yes this year a kicked off my YouTube channel which although had not proven to be overly popular, is great fun and something I hope to carry on.

Looking back at the resolutions I made scares me a little bit cause it shows how fast time has flies. This has been a ridiculously busy year for me and I feel like I have never grown up more in a short amount of time in my life. For example if you looked at the person I was at the beginning of the summer and the person I am now you would never think they had met, let alone were the same person. I have definetly grown up a lot and think that I am a mostly more happy person.

Please do let me know if you too stuck to your resolutions or not in the comments.

Here’s to 2017!

Merry Blogmas

Xx

Blogmas Day 20: Little Things Mean alot

Today I would like to talk to you about the little things. They really do mean a lot. For example when on the off chance one of you lovely people comments on my blog I cannot express the huge amount of fulfilment and gratefulness that flows through me. I am sent an email whenever I get a like or comment or new follower and let me tell you, when I do receive that email it is the highlight of my day. I don’t think most people realise how much everyone else means to them. For example I sometimes struggle to tell others (my friends and family) how thankful I am when they do the smallest things. This is more focussed on friends I feel. Your friends have chosen to stay with you, your family it has no choice. Isn’t that amazing? The fact there are people out there that chose you to enjoy themselves with instead of anyone else. I think that’s the most precious thing in the human world. The fact that unknowingly, we have the capability of completely changing another’s perspective, mood and aim. For a less uplifting example; if a person was walking along the street and you have them a compliment, said hello, offered spare change, or just simply smiled. Think of how much of an impact that would make on their day. You have no idea where there were going, could be on their way to a boring day at work and you made it a little less boring. Could’ve been on their way to a very important meeting and you relaxed them…
Could’ve been on their way to end their own life, and you made them think against it instead.
Most of you reading this are probably thinking I’m mental which I hate to tell you, also backs up my point. No matter what your thinking, I have intact impacted your day in some way. I hope this will be for the better. This little blog post has made you, my dear reader, think.
Even if that was just for a little while.
But none the less, I would like to thank you for doing so.
You see what this post is trying to say is that the little things do matter. But more specifically, thinking matters. I know that this post won’t have a major global impact and for example make world peace. But that’s not what I want, today atleast. I just wanted to remind you to think about what your doing. No, not with you lives, I don’t want to give all of you existential crisis’. Just while your talking to your friends or out Christmas shopping just think about what you do before you do something. Can you imagine if everyone did that? I know it’s a big ask because it has such big connotations.

A quote I heard the other day while watching Red Band Society had really haunted my thoughts. I’m pretty sure it featured in my other post about fave quotes: “Sometimes you don’t need to walk in another persons shoes to know how they feel, some times the best thing that you can do is sit beside them”. I don’t think I really understood this fully until now. I believe it’s saying that you don’t and won’t always have an answer to someone’s question. But there’s nothing wrong with that. As long as you’re there to listen to what they have to say that’s all that matters. Cause let me tell you, there is nothing more completely frustrating then not being able to share your thought, feeling or opinions. And it is so, so unhealthy to do so. Now reader I would like you to make me one single promise. If you have a strong emotion towards or about something. Never under any circumstances keep it inside you. You must share it. This could be you simply texting your best friend or screaming into a pillow (or someone’s face is they diserve it). Because I promise that once you do so another emotion will be taken off you’re shoulders also…worry. I hate worry with a passion. And as a fellow worrier myself I cannot express how good it feels when you realise what you were worrying about was absolutely nothing. A simple glitch in the system of your mind. Ah sweet relief, how I love you so.

I’m sorry if this style of blog post is not your cup of tea, I just felt like a change. And I’m not going to appologise for the rambles because that would be completely juxtaposing my whole point of sharing your emotion. Getting real here I do appreciate all those who read this blog because it means Im also impacting people’s lives which is just amazing. Thank you. I promise I will have a much more relaxed post tomorrow. I’ve been through a lot of emotions today for some reason and felt like I wanted to get creative with my words on my blog. Oh I do love a ramble.

Merry Blogmas Everyone!
Xx